Not very many Dominants are nice for anyone who wants to serve them intimately and almost everything. It might seem counter-productive, however the Dominant is often self-sufficient and needs minimal assistance in their lives. And what is a submissive willingness to do that in any such situation?

What is self-sustainability?

A self-sufficient dominant requires little or no help, support or contact for the necessities of life. Put it simply, when such things were done by them, they want to do it themselves and work just fine. It could be very common in a D / s relationship for the Dominant to want to do their own grooming certain home care, baking, or a host of other things and they’re used to doing them, prefer to do them, or have uncompromising requirements that they will not (yet) consider somebody else.

In what way does serving a self-sufficient Dominant is more difficult?

It is much tougher because they’re doing everything on their own. however, it isn’t impossible. The secret here is to interact with your Dominant that you have to serve which is not being met, that you would like to support them in any way you could without outstripping their self-sufficiency. This is a challenging discussion as they may not realize that you are doing more and still allow them to manage their world.

It is not the time to attempt and jump in to do things that you think might be nice. This could interrupt their stability and wind them to top from underneath over their shoulders. The first one to come is discussion and communication. However, it is a transaction and in the relationship you both should be content with your requirements and feeling satisfied.

How would you hold their independence untouched and serve them?

There will probably be ways how you can serve them to do everything they generally do. 

Take the following conditions:

Driving / Travel

Are you a damn good navigator? Are you capable to read a map and a compass? Could you actually research the places you or your Dominant are going to pass or continue to stay in so they can easily find lodging, food, fuel and entertainment? Would they allow you to keep the car or store an emergency travel pack?

Playtime

Do they require the tools/toys which must be properly cleaned and safely stored?

It actually takes a bit of thinking outside the box to know exactly that you can help them and that they can still be in control of their own lives. In the life of your Dominant, there are many other different ways you can actually share that will serve both of you. You will just need to start looking for it and then simply pass it on to them.

Personal grooming

Do they let you to begin your shower? Could you warm their towel? Set out their kit of waxing? Lay out their clothing or Iron their Shirts?

Home Care

Are you able to learn to maintain the small appliances like lawn mowers, vacuums, and toasters running properly at basic maintenance? and what about the Dominant who actually prefers to prepare food? Would you help me keep a running pantry list and inventory checklist and if they do the shopping?

Tips for taking care of your Long Distance Dom

From your question, you raise an interesting point. There is plenty of data available to look after submissives, either when you’re with someone or in a long-distance relationship, but what about a dominant?

Like always, each situation is different, and communication is the best starting point.

Suggest solutions that can make them feel better when dealing with challenging situations.

• Encourage them to express their feelings with you.
• Ask your Dom about How They are Doing.
• Ask how you might make them feel good.
• If your relationship with D / s is just like others, asking your Dominant what to do will not go well. 
• If you realize that they are stressed or frustrated, offer encouragement and support.

Dominants (the good ones) spend a considerable amount of time caring for their submissive, managing a dominant’s duties, being in charge and in control and providing reassurance.

Fundamental gratitude and appreciation of what they do can go a long way to help them feel better about themselves and what they can do. It is also a great way to show them that what they’re doing for you is appreciated by you.

Think of the things that your Dominant wants to do something for you when you need help, love, reassurance, or a little special care when you’re miles apart.

Change certain things to fit the character of your Dominant and do the things that you know you would love.

Simple presents were intended to make them happy-nothing big or expensive, simple items to surprise them.

You may also demonstrate them to your mind in smaller ways like Love notes through email text message.

Dominants can also be harder to take care of because when they feel so bad or have a horrible time of everything, they do not always agree with everything. Treat them with respect and gratitude, remind them of their thoughts, and do little stuff to show them how you care about them-it goes a long way to make them feel better, respected ,valued and appreciated.