Categories of dom sub-relationships 

Whereas the D / s relationship might be physical and/or erotic, for domination and submission, physical contact is not essential in which the services may be accomplished digitally or over the mobile. Financial domination (findom), for example, may not involve any physical contact, only financial exchanges between the Dom and sub. There is no unique way to be in a partnership with D / s. Individuals in D / s relationships might or might not be involved in romance with each other.

Most dominants and submissives (doms and subs) just stay in their positions during play scenes. The Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship is defined as the individuals who plays their role as a full time Dom/sub in the D/s relationship. Depending on their role, partners in these relationships are usually referred in the BDSM culture as a “master / mistress” or a “slave.” Master / slave partnerships (M / s) should always be mutual in these partnerships, sex is not particularly involved. 

BDSM D/s lifestyle participants includes the a qualified dominator / dominatrix (pro-domme) or a qualified submissive (pro-sub) might have D / s partnerships.

Playing the role of the Dominant

The Dominants are also referred to as a “top,” in a D / s relationship, the dom maintains power over their submissives. This pattern is evident even in letter capitalization, as representatives of the BDSM group purposely drop the “s” in D / s lowercase to represent the lower hierarchical status easily.

Subs are usually needed by a specific title to tackle their domes,  for example, “sir” or “mistress.” Doms can impose their power in different ways. There have been different playing scenes, from whipping and slavery to humiliation and forced chastity, that they can do with their subs. Doms must have received approval from their sub to perform any of these activities.

There are a lot of misunderstandings about doms. “Women who play the dominant part are also being portrayed as cruel and bossy,”.  “But in addition to being a good dominant or master, one must represent modesty and compassion.” According to perceptions, there is still a lot of care and practice that makes a dom, including getting proper training on how to tie ropes or using toys to provide aftercare after a scene.

Two prominent dominance types are “femdom,” where dom is female, and “mality,” where the dom is male. A quick search on Google shows that the search term “femdom” seems to have more than 20 times more search results than “malady” (309 million vs. 14.5 million), it also has been searched by users much more often, according to Google Trends.

How to be a submissive

A sub, or “bottom,” in a D / s relationship loses most or all power over the dom. Scenes may come in the form of forced feminization,  and more in the case of male submission (malesub). Since gender is unaccountably mixed up with sex and power, this often plays an important role in playing the scene, though not always. Once, the sub must agree to everything that happens with a pro-domme during a play scene or session.

The need for acceptance means during D / s play the sub is almost powerless. In a D / s partnership, the sub always plays their own kinks and fetishes. Though less popular than pro-dommes, there is pro-subbing in a much more professional setting for those seeking to play the dom role.

Submission as a lifestyle can result to more than just fulfilling your kinkiness; D / s or M / s partnerships can even lead to self-improvement in many other areas, including enhancing your diet and your wellbeing. 

Consent is important

If you have not stuck with the recurrent theme, consent is essential to a stable relationship with D / s. For example, though Grey’s Fifty Shade(American Romantic Drama) misses the point on consent, it at least brought the public to the idea of a D / s agreement which can be established to discuss and establish their arrangement by those initiating a D / s relationship. Agreements can be formulated per play scene and when entering into a long-term relationship with TPE or M / s.

If a participant is upset during a scene, a safe word can also be used, “mercy “is a widely used as a safeword.

There is still a great difference between D / s partnerships and relationships that are abusive, and that distinction is consent. BDSM acts, such as sexual humiliation and caning, would also be considered immoral and probably felonious without consent.

Demystifying sub relationships with dom

To be in a D / s relationship doesn’t mean you are going to immediately start dressing up in 24/7 latex and bondage gear. Individuals in D / s partnerships do many of the same things as individuals in “vanilla” partnerships.

Although some lifestyle slaves or subs may choose to sport a collar to signify their partnership with D / s, some may carry more discreet accessories, like branded panties, or otherwise appear completely vanilla. Although sex positivity has allowed some to be more transparent about their kinks, like BDSM, due to the stigmatization of non-normative sexuality, there are still many who choose to keep this part of their lives secret.

The advantages of partnerships with D / s

Though BDSM and/or kink could not replace real psychotherapy, it was suggested by sex therapists and clinicians that playing such fantasies can have therapeutic effects and can help to heal some of the trauma.