I’ve written more about it in the past and so I can  Guide/write-up at a certain point. Now, I really decided to write some facts in  brief to get together with my opinions for discussion.

Service submission in BDSM cultures often falls the gaps as a means of sub, since finding the play partners or something which  is performed at the play parties is not really favorable. If you are really a sub person and you are not a masochist and it often ends in a confused look and, “what are you actually doing?”sort of mindset.

Typically I chalk it up to people who do not understand the service subs “payoff.”  

The benefits of effect play with masochists is evident: 

• They achieve a high endorphin / adrenaline together with having sexual excitement levels and, in some cases, sexual pleasure.
• There is generally another benefit for submissives, who describes as a domestic service submissive.  These could involve and are not restricted to, achieving submissive space of the mind.
• External validation “A strong submissive gesture.”
• Emotional or psychological satisfaction.
• The happiness of helping a Domme.

Masochism of thought

Whenever it comes to the court process among Dominant and submissive, service submission winds up to be a contentious subject.  The root of the disagreement is that the people had different concepts of service but the vernacular(native) standard has not developed an appropriate set of words to provide accurate explanations.

To put it frankly: No words can be  used to describe the various types of services which are available.

I personally identified three places over most of the years whereby service opinions differ primarily: content encouragement, and interaction

If I refer to differences in quality, it implies the service could be: 

Household and Effective Service

It would include services such as housekeeping, designing, gardening, car maintenance, personal assistant service, etc.

Personal Service

 It would include things such as care of the body, relaxation, pampering, bathing / primping assistance, and items requiring personal, close contact.

As opinion differs, it becomes extremely problematic.  For example, one group sees the service as a bathroom cleaning and other people see it as a cunnilingus long session.  Both of these are the types of service, however the forms of services are quite different. Somebody might need both styles, but most interaction problems occur when people who only want one and not the other.

If I refer to differences in motivation, this implies the services can be: 

No Strings Services 

This sort of service happens once the service is really the sub’s own compensation and no other sort of compensation is expected.

Dynamic service driven 

This sort of service happens when a submissive service is sent to their Domme as a result of their request.

Service required 

 This sort of service happens when a sub offers service within a well defined rule and impact context.

Always the best sought after of all submissive  types were no-strings service subs, but they are the strangest.  As people search for this subcategory, they generally ask by name for it.  Though the other types don’t use words, so I composed some. Compelled service is a particular type of the Dynamic Driven service whereby, while under extreme stress, the sub prospers in service oriented submission, but might not able to do well outside of these conditions. Considering compelled services as a “lesser” form of work than no-strings or enthusiastic dynamic-driven service is also common for people seeking services. 20 Ways To Be Sub Without Sex Every Dayhttps://totalhomeinspect.comsingle-post/2020/01/16/20-ways-to-be-sub-without-sex-every-day/

If I refer to differences in contact, it means the services can be: 

Structured service

 Since,they are a paying domestic servant, the sub executes their function.  The Dominant is always the target and if there are personal-level experiences or communications the sub must expect very limited  The submissive is valued for their service only / primarily.

Service informal

Through a more personal interactive partnership, the submissive performs their role.

Individuals aren’t clear much about this variation from my observations if they are only looking for one form of contact.  Also, whenever it comes on what type they are looking for, this seems to be a moderately split for subs and Dommes.

 Failing to balance the two spaces It is the battle between my two submissive mental spaces which I have been dealing with currently.

There’s my part of the service

There’s my masochistic side of thought.

Each one of these spaces has a significantly different feel for them and is regulated by an entirely separate set of values, ideals and beliefs.

My service side wishes to give expecting nothing in return and seems to be satisfied and proud to be able to do well.  That is the place that comes from my trust as a sub. That is the part of me that is attractive as a sub. To feel better about myself, I need to get this part of me.

My masochistic emotional side just wants to survive.  It wants the attention, and it doesn’t want to be the subject.  It might want to be recognized, and not as an equal. When I ignore this part of me, I will finally begin hesitating inward and descending into a bad place.  A few of me dislike that it is what I need. Requesting for it made me feel like a sub “do me.” My instinct is to “hide from the truth” more than to verbalize this when I feel the need to brew.

Every specified day’s momentum tend to skew things one way or the other, but seldom both.  My expectations of my spaces are gradually moving, but they trigger their own collection of struggles.  I lose confidence in my service side if the emotional masochist receives the emphasis. If the emphasis is on the service side, I’m gradually going nuts.