How To Be A Good Submissive…
Now in Victoria B.C. Are there any good subs here?
From my point of view it seemed pretty easy to be a good submissive – you simply had to follow orders and do acts that pleased me! It took me a little while to realise actually just how nuanced submission can be, and how difficult it can be to navigate… even if you’re the one taking orders!
After a great deal of thought, however, I think I’ve arrived at an answer that fits most dynamics: a good submissive is, naturally, one that obeys and strives to please their mistress – one that puts their needs and desires above their own… but it doesn’t end there. A good submissive also has one other very important duties: they need to go the extra mile in getting to know their Mistress. A sub should have their Mistress on their mind nearly 24/7. How will I make her happy today, what does she need that I can provide. If you don’t know what your Mistress’s favourite chocolate, clothes stores, flowers, kinks, day trips, hobbies, or the best way to pamper her, then your Mistress is clearly not in your thoughts enough. Don’t message your Mistress at 6am in the morning and wake her up if you know she doesn’t like to be awake in the mornings. If your Mistress is busy then ask her what you can do to ease her duties. This is how I see a true submissive, one that obeys a Mistress’s instructions but also does their best to please, not just in a kink setting.
Of course you need good communication between a sub and a Mistress for this to work. It is your Mistress’s choice if she tells you information. Another important part of being a good submissive is to also communicate your needs to your Mistress. Knowledge is power. The more information a Mistress has about you the more power she will have over you. A Mistress can then know and decide what is the best course of action to reward or punish you. Communication is very important when you are new to the scene and also new to a Mistress.
This can be during a scene, or as part of your submission as a whole. It can be as simple as saying when a particular activity is getting close to your limit, or as complicated as asking for more rules to govern your behaviour when apart from your Mistress. Sure, your Mistress will be asking questions. Quite likely she’ll be reading you like a book during some of your most vulnerable moments, but you still need to communicate with her. Being able to be open, honest and forthright (in addition to being obedient) is what really makes the difference between an average submissive and a good one. As you can see all this takes effort from both sides. Make sure you thank your Mistress when she takes an interest in you and asks you questions.
Have this in mind the next time you see your Mistress and you will be a better sub.
Come see me if you are in Victoria B.C