How do you like your subs/slaves to address you?
Mistress, Madam, Nurse, or Doctor depending on the situation
Where are you located?
In Kings Cross/St Pancras, London
Do you have your own dungeon?
Yes
How long have you been a Pro-Domme?
15 years, before that I did it many years for fun and used to promote fetish clubs. The biggest being Club Submission in the 90’s
How did you become a Domme?
A friend asked me to stand in for her as she knew I did it already for fun!
Have you seen the scene change over the years?
Yes, I think it was more exciting in the 80’s and 90’s when we had underground warehouse parties and had to be very very discreet
When did you realise you were a dominant female?
From the moment I could speak and would not take no for an answer
Do you live the lifestyle 24/7?
No. I prefer to be like most of my devotees and escape into my BDSM fun and games as it rejuvenates me so that I can enjoy my everyday life to the full.
Do you have any special events of clubs that you like to go attend?
Occasionally, I visit my friends clubs, Club Rub, Pedestal, The Gate.
Do your family and friends know what you do?
Yes and they accept me. I am also a musician and artist so my lifestyle is very creative, free and Bohemian
Do you dominate just men?
No, I love to play with women too.
Is there a difference between dominating males and females?
For me yes. When it comes to pain, I don’t enjoy inflicting high levels of physical pain on women..even if they want it. I prefer other ways to punish.. I have compassion to men but feel I can be more brutal to them when required. I always reward men and women when it is earned.
Fifty Shades of Grey part soon will be coming out soon. Do you think the film has helped or hurt the BDSM lifestyle? Do you think is was a realistic view of the BDSM lifestyle?
I haven’t bothered to read it or see the film. From the synopsis I did read, I didn’t want to waste my time.
Is it stressful to always be in control?
No. If you are truly in control, you choose when to be in control. Lol.
What do you think makes a good sub?
Someone who is preened, polite and punctual.
What makes a good Pro-Domme?
Listening first to what the devotee says before any play is instigated and learning what makes them tick. After that firmness should be balanced with compassion, an attention to detail and acute attentiveness.
What was the most surprising request you have had?
To regularly crush watches for an elderly gentleman over the phone. He is the only phone domination I do and I have been talking to him for about 10 years. I have never met him in person.
What is your favourite kink?
Stockings especially fully fashioned stockings. I’ve got 100’s of them!
Are you comfortable pushing a subs limit?
Yes with a safe word or signal.
Why are people drawn to a powerful control woman?
There are too many reasons to answer that in this this interview but please check the next answer for some more insight.
Why are people drawn to BDSM?
To escape. I believe that giving up control and the adrenalin rush from mental and or physical torment is similar to what you feel by queuing up in anticipation to board a scary side at a theme park. Yes you are scared but you love the buzz and thrill. It makes you feel alive and then you want to queue up and do it again..until you are exhausted and satisfied
What are the biggest misconceptions about being a Pro-Domme?
That you are an escort or prostitute. That all you do is put on a pair of boots and whip people.
What are the biggest misconceptions about BDSM?
That it is all about pain or toilets!
Is aftercare important?
Yes. You both need to ‘come down’ afterwards. Even with a brief chat, a hug, or a cuppa.
Is there a kink you haven’t yet done but really want to do?t I’ve done them all.
No, I wish there was. Lol.
Has there been any funny incidents lately?
Humm. A man asked for strong CBT. I strapped him over my bench, tied up his testicles then put on some music ready to begin. I played ‘The Nutcracker Suite’ as I thought it was appropriate and it appealed to my warped sense of humor. I was just about to begin stretching his testicles when he used the safe word and begged for mercy. When I asked why he told me that he was a classical music percussionist. He had worked in the orchestra pit many years on numerous ballets and that quote, ‘Mistress, that it the worst version of the Nutcracker I have ever heard. It is more painful than anything you could ever do to me!’ He dropped a CD through my door a few days later played by a different orchestra.
What do you like to wear?
Whatever, I fancy on the day. Though I will often ask my visitor if he has a preference
How do you deal with time wasters?
I add them to an excel sheet which I regularly send to other Mistresses and directories.
What is the riskiest thing about BDSM?
Working alone. You should never be alone I on the premises. Not only for your own safety if it is a stranger but for the client’s safety too. For example,you could have him in bondage, trip over, bang your head, He could be in bondage for hours, that could kill him!
How do you stay safe as a Pro-Domme?
I always have a maid on the premises. I always disinfect everything after and before use. I don’t risk needle play or anything that deliberately involves blood or faeces.
What makes you different from other Pro-Dommes?
I care. I’m not the only Pro Domme who cares but many don’t. They just do it for the money. I like to still enjoy and get a buzz from what I do so I am also very selective about whom I see.
Do you specialize in a particular fetish?
I love role-play. I love light medical role-play. I am not a shouty screamy Mistress. I prefer to dominate with humor and poise.
What makes you really annoyed?
Rudeness and bad hygiene. I have an acute sense of smell and if a visitor is not sweet smelling he is shown to the shower…unless he has already requested to shower.
Does your job have an impact on your vanilla relationships?
In the past yes. But not now that I am older. You have to choose the right partner who accepts you for who you are and what you do.
What are your interests, other than BDSM?
Music. I am a qualified sound engineer. I write music, songs, sing and play percussion. I specialize in Cuban percussion congas, timbales and bongos. I enjoy going to gym, salsa dancing and Lindy hop.
Thank you Mistress Domatella! You can find Mistress Domatella and book a session with the following details. She is currently located in London, England.
www.mistressdomatella.com
www.centrallondonmistress.co.uk
Email: submission@mistressdomatella.com
Number: 07904 805806